Experimenting with temperature

Heat it up, Cool it down - Experiment with Temperature

We tend to associate good sex with heat. We use terms like hot, steamy, scorching, searing (lots of "s" words) when describing memorable sex. On the other hand cold showers, cold shoulders, and cold hearts generally aren't associated with lustful pursuits.

As a rule, a good sex tip is one that turns a common assumption on its head. It's not that common sense doesn't always make good sense, but our sexual behaviors are so easily habituated, and we tend to find something we like and do it over and over until we're bored of it. We also tend not to think laterally about the sex we're having.

The lateral thinking, temperature controlled tip for this week is all about temperature.

The next time you're having sex, by yourself or with your partner(s), find some way to bring something cold and hot to bed.

 

That leftover bag of freezer burnt peas may not be good for eating anymore, but wrap it in a t-shirt and bring it into bed tonight. Or there's always the cinematic standby of ice cubes. You don't want to use the cold to shock your lover. Be sure to wait until things have hit a rhythm in the sex, and then gently touch a less sensitive part of your partner's body with the cold. Once they know what's coming, you can experiment heating things up with your bodies, and then cooling it down with a more sensitively placed cold touch.

To heat things up, you can explore everything from silicone toys or glass toys (both of which retain heat and warm up nicely if you soak them in hot water before using) to  hot wax play. Be careful with the latter. Hot wax play can be exciting and intense, but it requires some thoughtfulness and knowledge. Get some good information, be sure to use candles that melt at a low temperature, and experiment on yourself first. Once you're ready to introduce it with a partner, start on less sensitive areas, and build up (or down) from there.

As always, have fun!