What Men Want (a Guide For Women)

What Men Want (a Guide For Women)

  

 

What do men want (from women)?   Women have been trying to answer this question for ages, and   shelves of self-help books try to resolve the differences between   men and women by considering we're from different planets.     Recently, in discussing the nature of humanity with a close friend, I   pointed out the "M" his hand made when he wrinkled up the palm of   his hand.  In seeing this he jokingly came to the conclusion that    men really ARE from Mars! That idea worked fine, until a woman    overhearing our conversation exclaimed that "her hand made an   'M' too."   A recent poll said that the average person is willing to spend 6   months' salary to find their true love.  Many women ask the   question "What do men want?" to their women friends and   sometimes they'll ask their guy friends.  I've heard more than a few   women express that men are "animals" or just want one thing:  SEX   (especially when dating).  Yet, most women also know that when a   man is really serious about her, he'll wait to have sex with her.     Knowing this, and a few more keys to men, women can increase   their odds of success in their relationships with men.  If women    would approach men with a few simple, effective guidelines, they'll    be much more likely to get exactly what they want from men:  a   fulfilling, healthy, happy relationship.     Here are the guidelines:   1. Men want a fun and exciting (female) companion.   2. Men want great sex (consistent, frequent, and passionate   lovemaking score high with men).   3. Men want to share meals with their woman companion (especially    when she cooks for him).   4. Men want you to support them in their work and boost their   confidence.   5. Men want you to look great, keep in shape, and express    confidence about your body.   6. Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect.   7. Men need private time, to unwind, to engage in sports and   hobbies, and to spend time with other men.   Women: in case you're not very thrilled with this list, that may be    because you were hoping I wrote the guidelines for "What Women   Want Men To Want," which, predictably, is a considerably different   list. For that, you'd have to see What Women Want (A Guide For   Men). But the idea is to understand men so that you might get along    better, right? Well, this guide works, trust me - it is proven and   tested.   You will note that this list of guidelines is far shorter than my list for   What Women Want. Why is this? Because men are more like dogs,   women more like cats. However, if you put a weighted scale on it,   you'd find more VALUE placed on each guideline than any of the   thirteen guidelines for What Women Want (A Guide for Men).  So, if   you want to improve your relationship with the man you love or   want to love, then try these guidelines and see how they work for   your relationship improvement results.   1.  Men want a fun and exciting companion.  There are things that a   man will discuss with a woman if the level of communication and   trust has been established.  Sharing activities can also be a healthy   way to build relationships.  If women spend more time with men   sharing some activities each week they are likely to get along better   with the men in their lives.   2.  Men want consistent, frequent, passionate sex.  Men get turned   on by different things that a woman does.  A woman wants to know   she's "the only one he loves" and that he digs her.   A man wants   his partner to be a bit of a lusty animal in bed - thus the high   subscription rate among men to Playboy and Penthouse.  (Note:     the top 2 subscriptions among men are Playboy and Penthouse,    the top for women is Ladies Home Journal and Better Homes &   Garden).  A woman that delivers in the bedroom will, more often   than not, get what she wants from her man - a dedicated lover.  A   woman who is more vocal in bed, and carries the attitude that goes   with it, is likely to get a lot back from her man, as well.  On the other    hand, a woman who is frigid and uses sex as a manipulation tool is    likely to receive games right back.  The main thing isn't so much   experimentation though - please don't take this the wrong way.  It is    about creativity, bonding, and emotional intimacy.  Men bond   through being physically connected.  The act of making love is how    a man feels that you love him.  Withhold this, and you are   withholding your love, to a man.  Men want to connect with the   physical act, because the act of release during sex is how a man   most feels connected to you.  It is the "feeling of being connected"    he most seeks.   By the way, some men living by their animal instinct or Ego's rules    enjoy the conquest.  We can help curb this tendency by being   aware and learning as much as possible about each other prior to   becoming physical.  Women can help improve their sexual   relationships by offering some spice and also helping men   understand the importance of romance, ambience, and setting a   good mood (thus helping her meet her own need to "heat-up" first).   3.  Men want to share meals with you, especially when you prepare   the meal.  I personally enjoy cooking a meal together and going out   and enjoying a nice meal together.  Do not expect a woman to cook   every meal for you, appreciate it when she does.  It is also nice   when a woman appreciates when her man cooks for her.  Women   who share their meals with their partner are improving the quality   time they spend together and building a better bond.  A man who   expects his woman to cook every meal might improve his   relationship by offering to clean-up dishes or surprising his woman   with a home-cooked meal of his own.  Many men just take their   women out to dinner to show their appreciation (thus, the reason   Mother's Day brunches are so expensive!).  Communication about   the importance of cooperation and sha ring of all aspects of the   meal can help improve problems in this area.   4.  Men want you to support them in their work and help boost their    confidence. Note: Women who understand men do not put them   down. Women who understand this ask men questions about their   career and let them know "you can do it, baby!"  In return, women   will find their man equally supportive because she understands him   and does things to let him know she's a believer.  Call it a case of    mutual admiration.   5.  Men want you to look great.  Some women call this the "trophy"   mentality.  Just go to a sporting event (like a football game or   baseball game) and check out the player's wives and girlfriends.     They are often quite nice looking with top-shape bodies. Of course,   many of these women are also attracted to the "star" image or   athlete's physical body. Looking great does not mean you have to   look like these people. I point them out because of society's status,   but please consider our perspective of how we look more important    than a societal viewpoint of what looks best.  Certainly, watching   weight, eating and drinking healthy food and water, and working out    a few times a week also has benefits to our own emotional, mental,    physical and spiritual health.  It is important to love our body.    When we love our body, why shouldn't our partner love it, too?    Even if you are "working on it," sending loving thoughts to your   body will help you achieve physical goals and happiness more than   sending out negative thoughts. Our confidence is attractive to most   people, and it counts in looks, too. Confidence is sexy. And men   love sexy women. Why did Marilyn Monroe have such popularity?   Because she was sexy. So, do your best to look great, stay in   shape, dress attractively, and display a confident and sexy attitude.    Watch how much more attention you'll receive from the man in your   life.    6.  Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect.  I've   recently heard a woman say that she felt men were not respecting   her, but then a few moments later used the phrase "well you men ..."    in her speech.  This indicates a tendency towards negatively   judging men.   Sometimes, we get back what we give out, and what   we say to each other DOES matter.  Instead, when we give love,   kindness, and respect, we will experience the law of abundance in   action.  Men listen differently than women do.  Women tend to nod    their head and make comments, such as "ah, uh-huh, wow, yes,   right" during conversation to indicate they are listening and   involved.  Men tend to listen like a wall, quietly observing until the   other person finishes their statement.  Being sensitive to this   difference in how men and women communicate (and adapting, as   appropriate) will improve communication between partners.    7.  Men need you to give them private time to be left alone, to spend   on hobbies and sports,  and to spend time with other men.  Some    men need a few minutes to unwind when they walk in the door    before sharing the day's challenges.  Some women need this   space, too, but I've noticed that most women prefer to launch into   the daily review, while men really just like a hug, a kiss, and then   some quiet space for a few minutes to unwind prior to reviewing the   day together.  Do what works best for your relationship.  I find that a    sincere and compassionately deep hug upon greeting is nice,    followed by a thirty-second kiss sometime in the next few minutes,   helps re-establish that "connected" feeling. Did I just say 30 second   kiss? Yes, I did. Why? Because a peck kiss does nothing to    establish nor maintain romance. It requires a longer kiss to do that.    So, use your kissing to your advantage and keep the passion alive   between you!   I remember a friend telling me about his girlfriend, how she tried to   be his "Ms. Right" by becoming the woman he wanted, rather than   developing some interests of her own.  Perhaps, she'd be married    to this man, today, had she simply had some of her own interests   and creating abundant living in her own life.  It can also be valuable   to take time apart, once in a while, to reinforce and remind each   other of your bond that hold you together.  Perhaps, by not   spending too much time together, we may realize why someone   coined the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder."     I hope this advise works for you, it truly works for me and as I know   that not all men and woman are the same, this is merely a guidline    to help you acheive a bond that may last the test of time.