The Lessons of Divorce

Divorce changes your life forever. It teaches you things about yourself that you would never have known otherwise.

I know this blog almost seems out of place amonst all this sex talk, but it is a subject that has been coming up alot recently so I felt the need to write a blog on it.

Divorce teaches you...

• that you are capable of much more than you ever thought you were. that being strong is easy when you believe in yourself, and almost impossible when you don't.
• that actions are much more important than words.
• that children aren't blind to the problems of their parents.
• that good friends are an invaluable source of strength.
• that some friends are not worth keeping.
• that money isn't the source of all happiness.
• that forgiveness is a difficult and long process.
• that anger is part of the healing process.
• that being alone and single is far less painful than being married and lonely.
• that love doesn't last forever.
• that people change.
• that nothing worth having comes easily.
• that the price of infidelity can far exceed its pleasure.
• that even spouses have their limits.
• that one person cannot keep a marriage together.
• that one person can break a marriage apart.
• that lies and love don't mix.
• that lust can destroy love.
• that the legal system is not always fair.
• that no matter how bad your life is, there is someone pretty close by whose life is far worse.
• to use caution before you fall in love.
• that emotional infidelity can be more dangerous than physical infidelity.
• how much you never knew about the person you trusted with your life.
• that waiting for someone else to change is pointless.
• that if you want control of your life, you must take it instead of waiting for someone to give it to you.
• that possessions are a poor substitute for love.
• that hindsight isn't always 20/20.
• to trust your instincts.
• that ultimately it's all up to you.

 

Here is a quote that sums of my Divorce (sort of)

"...I accepted that nothing happens to me that I did not start or permit in some way. As I did all of this I accepted that the people that I would count as friends would become fewer and fewer, because the crazy folks don't find me to be fun any more. Then I came to like, respect, and love the one person that I can not live with out.........ME!"